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Fly Me To You

Fly me to you (FMTY) is a fantastic way to see your Dominatrix of choice at the location you desire. My dungeon is portable, and I love to travel and experience new places and people.  


The first step is agreeing on a suitable location, date, time, duration and session content. Then, providing screening details and a 50% deposit seals the deal. 


Fly me to your hometown, let me be the most exciting part of your business trip, or see me before, during, or after a holiday. Even better, plan a playcation to a place we both want to explore.


Making your fantasy an exclusive reality with both our schedules, often requires booking long in advance. This gives us something to look forward to and be properly prepared for. 


However, my schedule changes from month to month, so there’s always the odd chance I’m available for a last minute rendezvous. 


I’m happy to travel to most places I can fly to in Australia for a booking of 2 hours minimum, with travel costs and one night at a hotel covered. In rare cases, I can fly in in the morning and out in the evening on the same day. My preference is for longer bookings. 


For FMTY worldwide, I assess the booking and require an absolute minimum of 4 hours. In this case, 50% of the session and the travel costs, one night at an upscale hotel and all meals need to be covered. Depending on the location, the minimum hours and requirements might vary. When you fly in a Dominatrix you’re dying to have a session with, you should be excited to make sure her stay is up to the highest standards.


From the moment the booking is made, there are many ways to stay in touch and build up even more tension and anticipation from afar. For an agreed upon donation, I can offer text, email, call, video, pictures, slave tasks, key holding and more for a period of time leading up to the FMTY. 


Another way to add a little extra, is by sending a gift in the form of a donation or gift card to be used on an outfit or toy for the session. 


Reading this blog is the sign it’s time to turn your FMTY fantasy into reality. 


See you in Playtime Paradise!



My Domme Life

Curious what a day in my life looks like? I love the diversity in my life as a dominatrix. No day is the same, although content can be similar and juggled around throughout the week. Important pieces in the puzzle of my existence are exercise, yoga, meditation, reading, social media management, text, call or video sessions, answering emails and texts, preparing content and live sessions. 


I stay strong in body and mind to be the best Domme I can be. Yoga and meditation makes me attuned to what arises in a session and able to adjust to the client. I build bodily strength to keep the submissive in their place on a physical level. This is particularly important in wrestling and discipline sessions. 


No client or session is like any other. In person sessions are built with diverse content and prepared for mentally and physically beforehand, to assure I am ready to give the client and myself the best possible experience. 

Text, call and video sessions require different preparation. First, I make sure I know what the client likes. Then, I plan a session with the elements the client requests with some room for improvisation and change if needed.

Online presence and social media management takes up a lot of my time. I got a website, directory profiles, and Twitter to maintain and update frequently. Preparing content in the form of Tweets, blogs, taking pictures and editing is a daily task. I enjoy it since it allows me to be creative and innovative and give people a glimpse of my life. 

The variety of experiences I have makes my life rich. Being a domme is a full time job and beyond. It is a lifestyle and I wouldn’t want any other way. 

5 Reasons to visit a dominatrix

Tension release

Are you in a high pressure job where you have to be switched on and ready to handle any challenge 24/7? Imagine being able to fully separate your mind and body from all responsibilities and hand over the reigns of your existence for a couple hours. Separating fully from stressors can bring forth a huge tension release and leave you feeling euphoric and ready to take on challenges with a clear mind.

An unfulfilled desire to be submissive

Have you fantasized about a powerful woman taking charge of your body and mind? Is it something you are unlikely to admit to desiring in your everyday life? This is where hiring a professional dominatrix is a great idea to let you explore an aspect of yourself you have not given space before in the right set and setting. She will guide you into the new world of submission and together you will uncover what aspects of submission are most suitable for you to unpack.

Expanded understanding of power dynamics

Being in a state of submission is very different from many peoples everyday reality. Putting yourself in such a position can give you valuable insights into what it is like to be under someone else’s control and influence. 


You are always in control and would like to experience giving up control

Are you the boss in your personal and professional life? Do people turn to you expecting you to always be in control? Do you always have every little aspect of your life planned out to the finest detail? Imagine not having to make any decisions and simply follow directions without knowing what will happen next. If you dare step into an experience so far from your ordinary day to day life, it can give you a great release of tension as previously mentioned and open your mind to see things from different perspectives. 

You are open minded and would like to try something new

If you are naturally open minded, adventurous and curious about different dimensions of sexuality, it can be a rewarding experience to dive into the world of BDSM guided by a professional. A session with a dominatrix will  let you discover something new to add to your sexual repertoire. It may let unpack another aspect of your sexuality which can open you up to a whole range of experiences previously unexplored. At the very least you will leave with exciting memories and another thing to cross off your bucket list.

Sexual Energy

Sexual energy, libido, lust, desire, passion, eroticism, a powerful force with many names. This inborn power enlivens and invigorates us. The stronger our passion is, the more it assists us in being vital and present with life. 

The strength of our libido can make us more creative and inspired. Flowing through life seems less challenged when we are infused with the energetic force of desire.

Both lack of, longing for, and experiences of playing in the realm of lust inspires great works of art. Paintings, poetry, movies, plays and music are full of words and imagery inspired by eroticism.

Sometimes, our sexual energy lacks an appropriate outlet, and the force gets bottled up inside. This may cause anger, aggression and dissatisfaction with life and sexuality.

This is where I come in, providing a safe space to get back in touch with your libido. When we are together, and even before we meet in the flesh, I encourage you to explore your sexuality. I invite you into my playground, where you are free to embrace all aspects of yourself. Trust me to ignite your passion, and send you back into the world infused with at least a little more lust for life.

Directories

There are hundreds of escort directories online, some local and other international. A segment of these are aimed at the lower end of the market, while others cater to the higher end of the spectrum. What they have in common is the need for sex workers signing up and clients choosing providers from their page over others.

What makes a directory successful? Factors include branding, design, user friendliness, layout of the page, SEO, and in my opinion people. The people behind the idea of the directory, the ones who put the page together and the people who run it on a daily basis creates the foundation. 

All of this does not mean much unless it can attract the right sex workers to put a profile on their page and also recommend the directory over others. Then comes the clients, who need to either know about the directory or find it easily when doing a search.

When I put my profile on an established directory, I consider its design, wanting it to be simple, classy and sexy and be able to reflect who I am as an escort. Then, I look at the sex workers on it, to see if they are in the same category as myself. After which, I see how the page performs on a Google search, if it is on Twitter, and any feedback that might have been given about it. Then, I’ll ask a worker friend and a client if they have heard about it and their opinion.

New directories seem to pop out of nowhere on a weekly basis these days, sending lengthy text messages and emails full of promises of benefits. When I choose to put a profile on a new directory, I look past messages promising the world from directories I have never heard of, to personal invitations from trustworthy people with industry experience. 

In a time where the world has changed to the unrecognizable within a couple of months, where established directories change for the worse and new ones for the better, who knows what page will be the most popular in the future. Therefore, it can be a good idea to go directory shopping and see if there are new ones that fit your needs more where you currently advertise. On one hand you might get a good laugh and know what to steer clear off and on the other hand find a new favorite and gain some inspiration.

This is the best time to visit a sex worker

Why on Earth is the midpoint of a pandemic a good time to see a sex worker? 

First, we are already extremely careful about hygiene and sanitization of our workspace. The pending threat of disease makes us even more cautious, so rest assured, you're most likely stepping into one of the last places a virus would survive.

Second, the public fear has made some clients cancel their bookings and others think twice about making one. As a result those who decide to see us will really make our day and be shown how much we value them as a client.

Third, in a time of gloom, you are much better suited to deal with whatever life throws at you when you're happy. That's where we come in. Sex and physical touch are directly related to happiness. Some may even go as far as saying sex is the key to happiness and good health. 

Now, I highly encourage you to visit your local sex worker, gain some valuable sanitization tips, share some laughs and protected intimacy and leave with a smile on your face. If anything, it should prepare you to more easily slide through what may become a time of even greater despair.

Role Play

“How could they hire someone as incompetent as you for the sales position? I haven’t seen anyone as useless as you in years. Now, I can think of a couple ways for you to make up for that...” 

Welcome to the world of role play. My personal favourites include naughty secretary, inspecting landlady, stepsister, demanding boss, and pornstar at job interview. 

Stepping into a role adds another layer of excitement and permission to leave the mundane behind

I love assisting clients to act out their fantasies. Personally, I find acting thrilling and particularly enjoy the process of getting into character and the improvisation that follows. Whether it's acting out a script or acting an open role, it encourages a playfulness that invigorates our lives long after the play is over

New Year. New Explorations.

My heart beat faster as I surrendered to his touch. I released all desire to resist as he put cuffs around my wrists and locked my arms together behind my back. I willingly let him take control over me, the untamable one.

A fresh awareness of body and breath arose as I was liberated from performing. He gently threw me down on the couch face down. His soft, yet firm hands caressed my butt before he spanked me once on each cheek. Is that all you got? The moment it slipped out of me, I both regretted saying such and felt an extreme excitement for what came next. He slapped my right buttcheek so hard it gave off a perfect spanking sound. The arousing pain stripped my mind from thoughts as my body became all sensation. 

I quickly snapped out of it as my perfectionist self came back to hold the reigns of my brain. How was it that this newbie gave off a better spanking sound on my ass than I do on others? Perhaps my booty just give off a good sound? Dammit, just as easy as I lost control, my mind was ready to take it back. I told my first dominant to release me, and that I had enough for the first time. Inside, I craved for more. 

The exhilaration I felt from releasing control infused me with new excitement for life and work. Now, I know what it’s like not to think or plan or hold space. Unaware of what will happen next. Aware only of sensations. Outside the mind, in the field of the body, where pleasure and pain become one. 

Private Christmas Party

Are you frantically running around organising Christmas parties, keeping track of family festivities, buying presents, and taking care of everything and everyone but yourself?

Here’s a wild idea, take an hour or even two to gift yourself some pleasure. I promise you’ll forget some of the weight on your shoulders and leave with a smile on your face. A smile that will last through the rest of your day and potentially all the way until Christmas.

In busy times like these, we tend to think about everyone but ourselves. But, how can we really take care of anyone else when we haven’t tended to our own needs first?

This December, at my luxurious incall in Sydney CBD I am excited to be your Private Christmas Party.

If you desire a relaxed time to unwind, I offer a soothing massage to center you before some sensual delights.

Are you more in the mood for a real party, let’s open the champagne and turn up the music. If we get extra silly, I even have disco lights to turn up the mood, while we play a game of how many surfaces we can have fun on.

Let me be your treat this Christmas. You deserve some fun too!

Letter To My New Client

Thank you for knowing what you want and having researched me before we meet. Your efforts will be rewarded with positivity, a genuine smile, and a fully prepared and sexually charged Scandinavian siren eagerly awaiting your visit. 

A man who knows what he wants and when he wants it excites me. When you contact me it makes me happy that you share when you would like to see me, your preferred service and duration, and if you want me to travel to you or visit me at my incall. 

I have a vast collection of lingerie and outfits and any requests made before our date will be accommodated as much as my wardrobe allows. I love dressing up for a lover and cannot wait to dress up (and down) for you.

Once we meet, I thank you for being on time, clean, having read my webpage, being kind, genuine, open-minded and non-judgmental. It makes me excited if you're as curious of who I am as a human being as I am with you. 

Dear New Client,

I cannot wait to meet you and create memories together 

Kisses,

Nina

Breaks and Break-ups

I love my job. It's taken me over 10 years to finally dare become a sex worker, what I always wanted. Surely, I would be the last person to give up my beloved profession and lifestyle for a man?

Think again. Before being bewildered by a boyfriend and prospects of a "normal" life, I never doubted my choices in life. Then, I too got lured away by love. At least what I thought was love at the moment. While in my mind, love should be unconditional. In this case it was conditioned by me having to reluctantly agree to seeing my work as morally wrong.

The strong, independent woman I thought I was caved into conditioned love. I no longer felt good about working and took an indefinite break while struggling to adapt to a life of Netflix, chill and dog walks. 

To be loved I gave up my life. I lied and humoured my man and his limited view on sex work as amoral.

Personally, I find sex work beautiful. It allows for genuine connection, exploration of sexuality, and gives space for people to be free and exactly who they want to be, even if just for an hour. Every hour I worked I felt privileged to be a guide in the realm of sexuality. Then I turned around and gave it all up to fit into a box that was never fitted for me.

You may wonder where the story ends? Well, I realised that someone who can't love me for who I am will never accept me as an equal. I choose to take the good memories with me as I decide to be myself again, fully. No limitations and no shame. I am at a stage where my life is exactly what I designed it to be, doing what I love, being happy and free. No one can tell me that's the wrong place to be.

Ménage à Trois

A woman's touch awakens dormant desires in me. The softness. The sensuality. The sensations of her hand stroking my skin. If simply her fingers makes me tingle from head to toe, her tongue must surely be pure bliss.

If I get excited only from thinking about a woman’s touch, then a man touched by not one, but two women at once must be close to nirvana. If I was a man, that would be my ultimate fantasy. Hey, writing about it makes me wonder if perhaps it might be mine too.

Seeing couples or adding another female to the mix in a booking has been some of my favourite bookings. Nothing compares to the delight of exploration and the many possible opportunities for simultaneously sharing and receiving pleasure.   

Combining the soft female with the more firm male is the perfect combination for someone who wants it all. Now, dear reader, please let me indulge in this delight again soon...


The Outcall Experience

I'm on my way to a business dinner, I casually reply to the nosy Uber driver as I powder my nose with one hand and straighten the lacy panties under my pencil skirt with the other. Ah ok mam, he replies as he takes another extra long look at me in the mirror. 

Then, I remember that I'm in an Uber for Jack. I keep my fingers crossed he either thinks Jack is my boss or my name is Jacqueline. Either way, he better find my answers polite enough to maintain Jack's impeccable rating.

My heart beats faster and my attempt to casually straighten my thong ends up twisting it the wrong way and deeper into my butt crack. Dammit I say out loud as a hot flash comes over me and I say a quick prayer it won't leave my skin flushed or lady parts inconveniently moist.

Once we pull up at the Four Seasons, I attempt to politely thank the driver as I elegantly slide out of the Uber. Then, my inner super woman takes over and I immaculately straighten my panties, make my blouse and skirt appear appropriately business womanesque and lightly fluff up my loose curls. I walk with a balance of confidence and modesty over to the entrance as if there is no doubt I stay there. I glide in past reception casually discreet to avoid any attention as I head for the elevators.

A lovely date awaits. As I enter the elevator a grateful smile spreads all over my face knowing I'm about to do what I love.

Triple Life

I’m bartending and waitressing at a private party tonight so I can’t join. In one way, I am telling the truth. I will be pouring drinks. I am simply leaving out what I’ll serve for main course; me.

When friends and family ask about my work, I never lie completely, I just don’t tell the whole truth.

I’ve been bartending on and off for ten years. Occasionally, I still work at private parties, although I prefer pouring drinks in a much more intimate setting. In my life now, I create the best drinks naked or wearing sexy lingerie, and serve them to a lover or a couple of lovers.

Other times, I say I am a yoga teacher. I am a yoga teacher, I have 500 h of training behind me, have taught in three countries, and often end up using skills I acquired in a job. I owe my flexibility, mental clarity, breathing technique, and creative positioning of my body to yoga.

Am I really lying and living a double or even triple life when I am only leaving out sharing certain aspects of my life in conversation with certain people?

Asian Fever

Earlier this year, I returned exhilarated from my first visits to Hong Kong and Singapore. As soon as I landed in Australia, I immediately planned my return. The modern atmosphere, well dressed gentlemen, vibrancy and exotic cuisine had me hooked.

Adding on to my excitement was the fact that this tall, blonde, long legged Scandinavian appeared to be a rather exotic rarity to the local people. I felt special, unique and thrilled when new lovers proclaimed they’d never been with anyone from my part of the world before. Some mentioned they felt a little intimidated by me before our meeting, and was surprised by how comfortable they felt in my presence. Enough at ease to share and act out their secret fantasies.

I thrive from allowing people to be their authentic selves and safely live out their desires. Sharing new experiences in a new environment makes me feel so alive and grateful. I’m currently counting the days until I return to Singapore mid November, keeping my fingers crossed I’ll be equally blessed with delightful gentlemen, delicious dishes and desires.


Pleasure & Pain

When pleasure and pain meets surrender and trust there are no limits to the experiences ready to be explored. The immense rush of playing in the spectrum of pleasure and pain is unparalleled. Balancing on an edge so fine it takes undivided attention and skill to thread right.

Then, how does one find the right partner and guide into such a potentially dangerous and delightful world? In my experience, it can sometimes be easier to explore fantasies involving the combination of pleasure and pain with a professional. At least until one finds a like minded individual to play with, where the necessary trust has been built.

I remember dragging a very uncomfortable past lover through the streets of Amsterdam’s red light district into sex shops practically begging him to pick a flogger and paddle for us to play with. Instead of agreeing to my request, he looked away and got more and more visibly uncomfortable. In the end, I gave up. This was obviously my thing, not his, and where lies the pleasure in demanding your partner give you pain when it’s nothing but a pain to them?

Many lovers and clients later, I thrive from allowing people to live out their fantasies of pleasure and pain within the safe container of my incall. If you crave such experiences and your partner does not, there is nothing wrong with you or even with your relationship. But as a firm believer in fulfilling one's desires and living in accordance to one's true nature, I highly recommend exploring it anyway.

The rush I get both from being a dominant and a submissive makes me feel more alive and ready to take on any challenges the world may face me with. In addition, if I’m ever bored, I have a well of memories to draw from. So, if you ever catch me with a cheeky grin on the 5pm train, you can bet my mind is drifting somewhere into a past encounter in between pleasure and pain.


Fuck My Brains Off

I am crazy about sex. It is one of my favorite human activities. Ever since my first orgasm at the age of eleven, I knew I found a method to match my madness.

Sex quickly became both an escape from and an intensification of life for me. Exploring my sexuality gave me space from the mundane activities I found unsatisfying and transported me to a realm of pleasure. Having sex with myself or a partner taught me so much about the way my body and mind works.

During sex, my senses are heightened and I live only right there in the moment. I exist for the experience of pleasure and the delights of physicality. I am all being, all feeling, all sensation, temporarily released from the cage of my thoughts.

The natural high of sex is incomparable to anything else. To me it is my meditation, my method of ecstacy, and my way of discovering deeper levels of myself. I find great satisfaction in taking people on pleasure journeys with me, where we leave our limitations and thoughts behind to simply be.

Touring Fever

I left my beloved Sydney behind to make new connections in cities I’ve never been. I’m bubbling with excitement and an edge of nervousness reflecting on who I’ll meet and what I’ll experience. But first things first, how do I even do this? Thoughts of where to stay, how to look, and what on earth I should pack twirl around my brain as memories of my last travel come up. That’s when airport security tore apart my bag before holding up my collar and chain for everyone to see, while asking “what is this?” “It’s a collar and chain, it even says so on the box you took it out of mate, seriously? And yes it’s for personal use, It’s not like I’m gonna kidnap anyone with that.”

What do I pack?

I start putting my favorite pieces of sexy lingerie in a silk bag, before I know it, it’s filled up and I put a couple more sets in another bag along with stockings. Then onto toys, strap on, dildos, flogger and just as important, sexy shoes. I put the first main things in my suitcase and realize it’s almost full. And that’s before I’ve pack such necessities as actual clothes. I curse myself for only picking 15kg and realize I’m up for massive rounds of repacking and at least 10 additional kilos.

Who will I meet and what will I do?

I have no idea how the men of Adelaide and Perth are, but I’m about to find out. As in any other place, I risk meeting anything from a first class gentleman to a rude and immature excuse for a man. I can handle both, but prefer and hope for the first.

On such a trip work/vacation balance is the key. I would love to explore what the cities have to offer both at day and night, while making time to see a selected few gentlemen I can devote my full energy and undivided attention to.

I also hope to meet fellow sex workers to share drinks and experiences along the way. After writing this, I feel much better about taking off and cannot wait to get out there and create new memories.

Kisses,

Nina - coming soon to a city near you, reach out, let’s play!

My First Tour

I planned my first tour two months before departure. Posted the dates on Scarlet Blue. Created a webpage. Got a Whatsapp account. Started being active on twitter. And then I waited. And waited. And waited.

The excitement bursted as I received my first twitter DM's and Whatsapp messages from interested clients about my tour. These men were either quite chatty or wanted to know if I "were around on the afternoon of .." once I mentioned the magic word deposit, they all vanished, never to be heard from again.

I canceled my tour and decided to give it another go later, when I had the ability to go strictly as a holiday if needed. However, I did not announce the cancelation. Then, as I was supposed to be in a given city the "Hey babe, you avail in ...?" and "avail now in ...?" started pouring in. To which I struggled not to answer "NO BABE, FIRST OF ALL, I AM NOT YOUR BABE NOR WILL I EVER BE, AND I AM NOT AVAIL AS YOU DIDN'T PRE-BOOK ..."

This time, I'm taking things a little lighter and planning my tour as a vacation with the addition of a few selected (pre-booked) sexy encounters along the road. I've got things to see and places to be strictly for me, and inviting in the possibility of gentlemen to pre-book time with me along my journey. I got some bookings already and there are still openings in my schedule waiting to be filled, either with sexy times or me-time. Regardless, this time I'm ready to take the leap into the unknown world of touring. If you want to see me, make sure you mention the magical and dreaded word deposit early on and I'm sure to be excited and ready to see you!